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Metaphors

Tim Bray: “"furthermore I think that mixing baseball and sexual metaphors is just fine."” Agreed.

Good Enough Reason for Me

The reason Mark Pilgrim is waiting to have sex (there's also reason to believe he means conceive rather than 'just' sex) until he gets married: “Because we don't want to worry for the rest of our lives whether our child have [sic] enough of an aptitude in math to count backwards from 9.”

Buddy Sex

The Buddy System: Sex in High School and College: What's Love Got to Do With It? by Laura Sessions Stepp [via MetaFilter]

Also, even as they seek the same sexual rush that guys historically have enjoyed, young women confess to dreaming about the romance of the old-fashioned pursuit: being wooed by leisurely strolls, candlelight dinners, small gifts and other gestures of courtship that were more common when their mothers were their age.

This is a theme that occurs in What Our Mothers Never Told Us by Danielle Crittenden (pp. 39-40):

What is striking about the modern film adaptations [of The Age of Innocence, Pride and Prejudice, Emma, and Sense and Sensibility] is their almost pornographic obsession with the vanished protocol of daily life [...] They are airbrushed, sentimental views of the past, to be sure, but it's the urge to airbrush that is the most arresting thing about them. [...] It's as if popular taste now wishes to recall the past only for its good points, and particularly that lost civility between men and women.

Update: I love MetaFilter. Especially this from Stan Chin: “I for one, welcome these sluts.” (It's so crude an outburst that I can't help but laugh.) Or the Tom Wolfe quote.

Update Jan. 20, 10:48 PM: good comments from orange swan, beth, and and Civil_Disobedient make (successive) comments that speak to me. I identify with what mdn says (except I'm not sure what he means at the end of his comments about physical strength).

rushmc is wrong when he says that “Stating that something "is wrong" is not saying what you think. Saying "I think X is wrong" is saying what you think.” Saying something is wrong is indeed saying what you think. It's just not a very good argument (neither is the second part) because you're not saying why you think it's wrong. IshmaelGraves deftly counters rushmc.

Update Jan. 21, 4:45 PM: beth says (and I can identify with this): “When the cultural expectation is for sex without attachment, anyone who wants an attachment with their sex is at a disadvantage.”

Update Jan. 23, 2:25 AM: I have to admit that echolalia67 states the opposition's position intelligently: “Aping a repugnant attitude that was traditionally held by some men is not feminism. Understanding what you really want and figuring out a way to get it in an ethical, honest way is, as far as I'm concerned, feminism.” She sees sex outside of a committed relationship as not necessarily unethical, but all-the-same not for her.

New Position on Casual Sex

The New Position on Casual Sex by Vanessa Grigoriadis

Another terrible article on casual sex.

Here I am having these tawdry affairs because I don't want to give men I might want to date the wrong idea by having sex with them, but I don't want to live without sex.

I gotta admit though, that's a pretty great quote.

Crittenden Quote #1

A quote, without endorsement or criticism (for now) before I watch two hours of King of the Hill and The Simpsons.

In the new feminist understanding of male sexuality, a man must be punished for merely his hope of having sex with a woman. As for women [...], they no longer demand the right to free sex but to good sex. A casual fling that a woman finds pleasurable is not considered date rape. But the woman who wakes up the next morning feeling a little tawdry, wondering what it was that possessed her to have sex with him, may decide it wasn't her fault after all; somehow she must have been bullied into it.

from What Our Mothers Didn't Tell Us: Why Happiness Eludes the Modern Woman by Danielle Crittenden, pp. 54-5.

Intelligent people don't get laid

Zach Stroum: “What I'm getting at here, is that the reason some of the most intelligent people on the planet aren't getting laid, even though intelligence is supposed to be this attractive feature, is because they think themselves into the ground. I'm not exception to this one either. If I had a nickel every time I mentally defeated myself or gave off the stinky fumes of desperation, I'd have enough money to pay to get laid.”

That article should probably be titled "Intelligent men don't get laid", since I know plenty of intelligent females that get laid. But even that is misleading: I know plenty of intelligent males who get laid. It should probably read "Self-conscious people don't get laid". [via MeFi]

Adulthood Without Sex

"Adulthood Without Sex" by Phillip D. Harvey

"It is wrong to expect young people to be sexually abstinent until they are more than half way through their twenties."

But what if...oh, nevermind.

"Sexual relations are an important component of human happiness, and there is no moral purpose served by abstaining from sex if two people are mature and responsible."

No argument here.

"Why should they be deprived of sex?"

You tell me!

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