Even Our Inner Conversation With Ourselves
Posted by Richard on Tuesday, 28 December 2004David Allyn: “Much, if not most, of the pleasure associated with sex comes from not having sex but from talking about having it. Stimulation and orgasm are certainly enjoyable, but it is the meaning we attach to sex through conversation that gives such physical sensations their true potency. Whether it be in the locker room, bedroom, or the boardroom — before, during, or after — our conversations about sex (even our inner conversations with ourselves) shape our experience of it. For all its faults, the sexual revolution taught us how to speak about sex more directly, more clearly, and, most important, more authentically than we ever knew how to before. We may not always take advantage of all the sexual revolution has made available to us in this regard, but the possibility of doing so is now ours so long as we hold on to it.”
For the record, I haven't read this book, but only skimmed through it once at the library and came across this passage, which, also for the record, was the second-last paragraph of the book.