For Once My Brain Told Me To Talk To Her

May 18th, 2005

Suw's friend: “Cute guys are like a link on del.icio.us: you have to find it first and get in there immediately, otherwise you're just going to see '... and 192 others ...'.”

A very geeky way of describing it, but that phenomenon no doubt applies to women as well.

Larry: “links aren't monogamous.”

Dan, on the subject of married people flirting (or flirting with married people): “if flirting is something that only serves to get you into a good relationship, then doing so once you've achieved that would be a waste of effort. Once you find a job you like, you probably don't keep going to job interviews. But finding a mate is only one of the reasons for flirting. ”

My only and therefore favourite story of flirting with a married woman was at my friend's wedding. Actually, I flirted with a married woman, a lesbian, and a girl who was dating someone, that someone attending the wedding. It was either my friend L or M—it could have been either, since all my memories involving them could have happened to either—”who pointed it out to me, but I didn't think of it as flirting: to me it was visiting with friends they didn't know I had met already the year previous. Except for the girl whose boyfriend was there: the story as I still remember it is that we had talked in the line for beer, asking each other how they knew the soon-to-be-married couple, then a couple hours later, she smiled at me, and for once my brain told me to talk to her.

Except possibly for the times I'll go to a store and ask legitimate questions of the sales lady, the real reason going into the store being that said sales lady is attractive, and possibly the conversations with the cute hair stylist that discuss Saturday night activities, I don't really have a concept of what it means to flirt. For me it happens when I'm in a different country, such as, in the above case, the United States.