Online Dating as Bar Scene
Most of this advice to men who enter online dating is of the "well duh" variety. (Most of it is also of the "do as I say" variety.) There's this though, which reminds me of why online dating still sucks: “you have competition (ratio is definitely still in the ladies' favour, at least for now)”. That means that there are more men than women participating, or at least participating actively. Lots of reasons for this, I suspect, and it no doubt partly has to do with the stigma of male online daters as not being able to get a date in the real world if their life depended on it. That bit, though, shows that females are the valuable commodities, and that we men have to compete for women, and not the other way around. I can only verify this through anectdotal evidence, that being women reporting to me that men msg them like crazy, and some guys are downright creepy (which, in practical terms, usually means twice their age). In other words, except for the alcohol and the yelling, it's like the bar scene and not, as the ads say, a place people who are tired of the bar scene can go for "lively chat".
I just want a girl who likes me on my own terms, who likes me for who I am. "Standing out" and being honest, which is part of the advice, are mutually exclusive for introverts, and that applies to online dating just as much as it applies to bars .
