Not Knowing and the Single Biggest Relationship Hell-Maker
Advice Goddess: “you should never leave a recorded message for a woman you don’t know very well. But, but...you don’t want to get rejected, not to your face. Yes, you do. Because what’s worse than being rejected to your face is being rejected not to your face. When that happens, you’re never sure whether you really were rejected, or as you’d prefer to believe, you called the wrong number or she dropped her answering machine into the Ganges.” Absolutely correct. I've always preferred being rejected to my face than not knowing either way. And definitive statements are better than vague ones: the worst thing she could say is not "no", but "maybe".
Elsewhere: “the single biggest relationship hell-maker is women who think men will double as falsies for their flat self-esteem. Instead of flailing about in hopes of getting a life, then getting someone to share it with, these women simply get a guy who’s already got a life, then attach themselves to it like a sucker fish on a whale. This saves all their unused personal growth hours to be funneled into more gratifying pursuits, such as combing the mall for deeply discounted shoes and telling the guy why he can’t go drink beer and make man noises at the sports bar.”
