"Why Buy the Cow" Dilemma
heather: “i'm suffering the whole "why buy the cow" dilemma. it's a horrible contradiction. we're told that good girls don't sleep around, but that also seems to mean that good girls also don't sleep with a boy they think is hot without some sort of committment. why can't we? if the boy is cute and interested, why is it so wrong to get naked with him?”
Funny. She explains why in the next paragraph: “i suppose i'm just afeared that the boy will think it's just the sex when there's a hope for more. i don't want it to always be just the sex. i want there to be the love and the romance and the committment, complete with the trust, the respect and the quiet affection, too.” Some guys (many guys, it turns out), will happily trade commitment for sex. It's when sex was decoupled from commitment that, well, it's all in this book.
